No One Else Can Define You

"But you're NOT a triathlete."

I've heard these words more than I can count. Each time, it feels like a punch to the gut. It's usually followed by some well-meaning advice.

"You aren't obsessed like they are."

"You're rounder than other triathletes."

"You ride a road bike."

"You haven't done enough races."

Blah. Blah. Blah.

The problem with most of these comments is that they come from people who have never seen me race. I typically finish strong and fast. I work my tail off while balancing life as a mom with three kids. Granted, many days I don't get to shower until after bedtime and there was a moment last week where a WHOLE BOX OF CHEERIOS ended up on the floor. But seriously, does that exclude me from calling myself a triathlete? 

Just in case you're wondering, this is what an entire box of Cheerios looks like on the floor. #momfail

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Oh yeah... and the 70.3 (Half Ironman) that I did? It was one of the hardest ones in the country.... on a cold, rainy, windy day. 

But, you're right. I'm NOT a triathlete. 


It's so easy to sit and stew over potentially hurtful comments. But unless that stew will feed you, provide shelter for you or put gas in your car, it's not worth it. 

There will always be an abundance of people with loud opinions in your life. In fact, I am one of those people. I have this blog and you are reading it. Muahahahaha!! I'm in your mind!

But you need to select which voices help you become better as a person. 

Where are your priorities? 

What would help you most?

You do You. You decide what you want to be.  I started keeping track of the people that TRULY had my best interest at heart. The ones that were there when I needed and helped me be better in the ways that I WANTED to be better. The list is short. Like, super short. But I've always been a "Quality over Quantity" type of person.

For me, I want to be a A Healthy Fit Mom, an Awesome Wife, a Dependable Volunteer, a Trustworthy Friend and a Determined Triathlete. 

And that's that!

End Rant.

This week on Charity Miles, I've done runs for: Pencils of Promise, Stand Up 2 Cancer and the National Parks Foundation